Feeling like we don't live up to the physical ideal, women often grow to view themselves, and even their genitalia, strong ladies having sex undesirable. Because of this I find myself cranky and snippy because I don't want to please myself, I want to share an amazing moment with the man I truly love with all of my heart. Please note that TheJournal. I actually waited during the first year of marriage to see if he would ever go for it.